How much breathing space is consider healthy?
Monday, June 02, 2008
couple in relationship (usually guys) will say:'o..come on, give me some freedom!'
When this pharse is out, to me, it will be a 'yu gan' that relationship is coming to the end. Gers not trying to control guys life but if a guy is not under the gers control, will be ever really be a good boy? Guys will tend to move off the track frequently and some gers will accept their man back. To me, once bitten, twice shy. Once i find out or got to know that my guy is off the track, with or without valid reason, i will call off everything. Maybe is time for me to change my thinking for now. Still, at the end of the day, everything is still a word, 'Depends' It really depends if he worth my forgiveness, it depends if i really love him that much that i can overlook this point. But i am someone that is quite stubborn.
When Guys say, 'Its ok to meet someone opp sex for coffee or clubbing session. we will not mind' to be frank, 'Are you sure you dun mind!?' but most guys are diff, they will say'guys can meet ger, gers cannot meet guys' What kind of logic is that?
When gers say'give me a break' we merely just mean a break.its not becoz we meet new guys, but is a phase to tell you to stay out of troubles to free us from troubles.
giving each other breathing space of coz should be logical. But, how much trust can you ever put in a guy? or rather, another partner.everyone have a benchmark....
Just finish lunch with my colluage and they asked the guys,'how much can you resist temptation?'even the most quiet guy in the world dare not promise this. I have a fren that her hubby is super quiet type. End up? having a affair out from the marriage. Seriously, i have having a benefit of doubt that, is there something call everlasting?I have a coll that donates 20% of his salary to the religious he believe. he is the 1% that come close to existion.
Gers are special in a way that they will not go off the track but once she is off, she will never turn back. but how much can a ger ever take it for guys to go off track? For me, once is enough, how about you?
PS: if above happens to me, i really cannot imagine what i will do