mother? or mother to be ready?
Friday, November 16, 2007
my another lady coll, not married but have a bf for 5 years said that she is ready and expecting to give birth to at least 3 - 4 kids.
Question: are you ready or not? how do you knw when you are ready?
To me, i m not ready coz i cannot imgaine myself as a mother and being a role model for my kids to follow. seeing other ppl kids, i like them, but when comes to own, i dun think i am ready at all.
Albert says prehaps i m too young and yes, i admit i am stil too young for kids. they seems to be a little devil to me but lookign at other ppl kids, i like them and play with them. but if come to my own, i cannot imgine. Albert says that kids will make a family looks more fufilling and of coz, he says that being together until a period should get married and not datign anymore. to me, i think i will like to at least married and stay together for some time before producing any products. these are not products that you push to sell rather, they are your own.
Divorce rates are gettign higher and all these unwanted products will either be send to grand parents or organization.
Question: wil you get married for kids or you get married for settle down?
i woudl liek to get married if i am redy to settle down. i am same as ayone out there askign for a simple life in future. but in sinagpore, do you really haev a chance to say that after married you woudl lie kto be a home maker? i dun think so. in singapore to have a kid is like a billion dollars needs to be spend on.
when this topic was dicussed yesterday, first thing come to my mind is my mum. she dun have to wrk as soon as she got married and still, both me and my brother grow up poor yet still i can rem every moment she have with me. it seems to be like yesterday when i knock at the door and call out,' mama, wo hue lai le' she will smile and open the door. i still rem very clearly on her eyes. she is 50 now which means when she give birth to me she is only 26 and as far as i rem her face clearly, that is when i am 7. she is 33 when she nuture me till who i am today. i cannot imgine if my kids were to be like me.
in short, i dun think i am ready to be a parents, not saying about more.....